We spend so much time making sure our loved ones are looked after and content, that it’s easy to forget about looking after ourselves. And when we DO put our own needs at the top of the list we torment ourselves with guilt and regret.
Four years ago I became co-owner of a small business. Over the years the added responsibilities that come with owning a business started to multiply. I slowly found myself working longer hours, taking work home, and the lines between work and home became somewhat blurred.
With less time and more work my dedication to my family didn’t waver however, but the dedication I had to looking after myself did. What resulted was an exhausted version of me. My home life suffered, my work ethic suffered, and I found myself drowning in exhaustion and resentment. To improve my situation I decided to take responsibility for myself and start taking care of me.
Applying self-love to your day and injecting a bit of ‘me’ time, is imperative in maintaining a sensible balance. By taking the time to focus on yourself you nurture the part that enables you to function well and maintain a calm existence during stressful times.
Start having more me time by these five simple steps to apply self-love to your every day:
Just “be”At those times when all I hear is noise and all I see is deadlines, I crave moments of silence and solitude. Dedicate 30 minutes of your morning to just sit and be before the craziness of the day kicks in. It’s a chance to focus on yourself without agenda. Do this daily.
Say noAt one point I had so much on my plate that I decided to take a step back and start declining invitations. Before you say yes to that chairperson position on that committee, or that spot on the local netball team, be realistic about how much time you want to devote to extra responsibilities. And those endless social invitations? Choose carefully, you don’t need to attend everything!
Do more of what brings you joyI don’t enjoy watching television and would much rather spend my spare time doing things I really enjoy. Want to take up craft or write your first novel? Cut out useless activities that bring you no joy to make way for the things that do.
Leave the housework I am messy by nature so I can truthfully say I am happy to leave my housework to rest. However if you’re the opposite to me, try sitting down and putting your feet up to read a book or watch a movie. This will soothe your soul more than clean floors during busy times.
Ask for help You know how sometimes it’s just easier to do something yourself than try to explain to someone else what needs doing? I have trouble with that. But once you ask for help, be it for the smallest of tasks, you will find the burden of responsibility just … list. Even if it’s only for a moment, it’s worth it.
When we apply self-love we are feeding our own self-worth with all that is good. We are telling ourselves we deserve attention and that we deserve to be put first once in a while. We deserve to be happy and when we are, it doesn’t just benefit us, it benefits everyone around us.
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Do you have any time for yourself?