These questions are especially common from friends who are also mothers to young children.
I don’t claim to have all the answers on questions so huge, but I do have some insights and many of them are based on my own experience.
First, there is nothing wrong with you. The marketing machines and advertising executives within our modern day culture want you to feel like you are not okay. They want you to feel like you need fewer wrinkles and more clothes. They need you stressed and anxious so they can sell you washing powder that smells like meadows to transport you to laundry heaven or get you to spend $100 on moisturiser because your skin would be like sandpaper without it.
The basic teachings of yoga philosophy and indeed most Eastern philosophy is that you are great just the way you are. What a relief. The only thing Yoga and Spirituality want from you is for you to feel OK exactly as you are right now in this moment with all your strengths and all your perceived weaknesses. Spirituality is not about adding another thing to that ever expanding to-do list. Or feeling guilty because you don’t meditate. It is about accepting and nurturing and becoming friends with yourself.
Becoming friends with yourself is how you start to connect more to your spirituality. Instead of going on-line and buying a new handbag or eating half a bar of chocolate will find deeper spiritual connection if you:
That’s spirituality because these are the things that connect you to the best of who you are and what you can be. And that’s the only goal of being a spiritual person. You already are a spiritual person, you just keep forgetting!
Why do we get off track?
If all else fails remember the thing that will bring you closest to a sense of spirit is love. The people who accept us the most are those who can help us to accept ourselves. The most spirituality happens every day in the moments when your partner or child shows you love – when you’re in K-mart PJs, with porridge in your hair trying to breast feed a crying baby, or when you are stressed out and ratty, or when you’ve just burnt the dinner. In the moments when a friend shouts you coffee or you unexpectedly get to soak in the bath. Those are your spiritual moments and they are happening everyday, just don’t forget to notice them.