All mothers need to remember this

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By Catherine Rodie Blagg

Posted on September 21, 2012

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This morning I found myself bolting through our local shopping centre after my cheeky toddler.

I ran, pushing her little sister in the stroller, yelling ‘Stop G! Stop!”

It was the latest in a series of bolting incidents… G is feisty, energetic and very, very fast. G thinks it’s a game, she looks back laughing when she sees me make chase. But it’s not so funny from where I’m standing… or… er… running.

Today G was intercepted. A friendly looking middle aged woman grabbed her by the arm and passed her back to me.

It had been a tough morning, filled with toddler tantrums and baby whinging. I was tired (I don’t remember the last time that I didn’t feel tired…) and G’s little performance was the last straw. The back of the metaphorical camel was well and truly broken.

Close to tears I thanked the friendly lady. She laughed and said…“Just wait till they’re teenagers!”
Eh. Teenagers? I managed to smile and force out a chuckle, but I walked away fuming. It wasn’t the first time a mother with older children had made such a remark.

I am well aware that teenagers are hard work. I have clear memories of being a teenager and if my girls take after me then my husband and I are in for a world of pain as we navigate the angst ridden, boundary pushing hell that is puberty. But we have a good ten years or so before we get there and we’ve a lot to learn before we do.

When I look back on my first few weeks of motherhood I have a little laugh to myself. I say things like ‘What did I do all day?! It was so easy!’ I wonder how I could ever have found being home alone with a newborn difficult… compared to the stress I experience now that I have a toddler and a baby.

But when I really think back and recall the overwhelming feelings of loneliness and the panic that I was ‘doing it all wrong’ I realise that it wasn’t easy at all.

I didn’t know that babies cry when they’re tired or over stimulated. I didn’t know ‘tummy time’ wears them out.  The first few nappies went on backwards and my early swaddling attempts had G wrapped like an over-stuffed burrito.

Motherhood has a learning curve; over time you learn the skills necessary to deal with the new challenges you are facing.

I am well aware that my daughters will continue to test me, but with a bit of luck, by the time they’re teenagers I will have gained the tools I need to cope with them.

And by then G will have stopped bolting. I hope.

Read other posts on motherhood here.

How has motherhood been a learning curve for you? What’s one thing motherhood has taught you? 

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Catherine Rodie Blagg.

Catherine Rodie Blagg lives in Sydney with her husband and two small daughters. In her free time she writes a humorous and honest blog about the challenges of modern motherhood. She drinks an alarming amount of tea.

Website: http://www.cupofteaandablog.com/

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  • https://twitter.com/LipglossMumma Jodi Gibson

    I had beautiful visions of motherhood. Long strolls in the park, coffee with other mums at local cafe’s. Really, that couldn’t be further from the truth. Motherhood is full of whinging, whining, crying, tantrums, and battle of wills. Oh yes and the good stuff cuddles, watching them grow and learn, and unconditional love so much so that your heart aches.

    And we have a teen, 14 and a tween 12, and they are so much easier than Miss 4 and 7. So far…..!!

  • Debyl1

    I never felt more lost,scared if I was doing the right thing and confused as I did when my girl was in her high school years.
    The dealing with teen pressures so different today due to technology,peer pressures,bullying at such high rates,sex,alcohol and drugs everywhere,hormones and moods as they change into a young adult.The loss of being needed as they push you away as they try and find themselves yet all the while still wanting you there when they need/want.Trying to get the balance right …not to push them away with too many questions…saying the right things so they know you are always there no matter what…even though at times they think you are the worst parent in the world.
    The one thing I know is everytime you think you have successfully made it through a stage,a new stage confronts you.All you can do is hope you did and said the right things so your relationship with your child is strong enough to survive the next phase of motherhood.
    I remember the words my 78 year old dad says…no matter how old they are you never stop worrying about your babies.x

  • http://www.worklifebliss.com.au Emma Grey

    Loved this, Catherine.

    I’m doing the ‘terrible twos and puberty blues’ at once here with three kids 14, 12 and 2. I find the 2 yr old more physically demanding and the others more emotionally and mentally tiring.

    So far, they’re pretty easy kids, but the worries/problems are bigger for the teens, and much of it is outside their control (and ours). (eg. worrying about the girl sitting beside my daughter in class who is cutting herself, or BFF’s eating disorder, and Facebook and parties etc etc)

    The learning curve for me is ‘teen’ – it’s the new frontier now. I’m spending half my time with my heart in my mouth! There are days when a toddler tantrum is almost comforting… (though days with no drama from any of them are the best!!)

    My parents often say that my sister and I didn’t cause them a moment’s worry til we were in our 30s!

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  • http://www.copingwithjane.com Jane Copeland

    Just saying although it is far off, I am not looking forward to my son becoming a teenager at all!

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