The nights where ‘just one more’ drink quickly turns into ten. But that is only ever really the start of it though isn’t it? The awkward shuffle dancing is quickly replaced by confident suggestive moves on tabletops, whilst handbags, inhibitions, pride and self-respect are carelessly flung into the corner far out of reach.
There has never been any doubt that alcohol is the devil’s mouthwash and has played a key part in many an argument occurring between friends, families and couples. But if you were to know that alcohol could potentially lead to the end of your marriage, would you act differently?
New results published last week from a Norwegian study revealed that marriages in which the wife drinks more than her husband are twice as likely to dissolve than if the man was the heavier drinker.
Data for the survey was collected from 20,000 couples. Whilst it showed that divorce was common in couples who both had high rates of alcohol consumption, it predominantly highlighted that in a relationship where the wife was the heavy drinker, the divorce rate soared to 26.8%. This displayed an increase of 13.7% in comparison to the relationships where the male was the heavier drinker of the two.
It’s pretty much common knowledge that women are affected more by alcohol than men and there is much scientific reasoning behind this. But perhaps what people aren’t taking so seriously are the implications that alcohol can have on personal relationships as much as health.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m no angel. I have had my fair share of nights out, many of which if you were to ask me about, I would be unlikely to remember. I have danced on tabletops. I have drunk until I have passed out. I have kissed numerous frogs and I have frequently checked in my femininity along with my coat at the cloakroom of clubs.
What I have also done however is made bad decisions, put myself in danger, jeopardized my mental and physical health and, above all, previously put my marriage on the line. And all for what? A drink.
I totally appreciate and empathise with the fact that alcohol is a release for us all. Life is stressful and we drink. We drink to relax. We drink to escape. We drink to party. In fact, alcohol is as much a part of our culture as Australians as the surf and sun. However, as this survey highlights, it can be so much more damaging in so many ways.
There is definitely no doubt that there is much more of an awareness these days of our dependence on alcohol, and the emergence of monthly abstinence challenges such as ‘Feb Fast’ and ‘Dry July’ are an encouraging way for people to quit the grog for the short term. However, this new survey does reinforce the point that perhaps abstaining from drinking, or at least choosing to drink in moderation, should be more of a longer-term decision.
After all, it may well mean the difference between following a path that may potentially lead to a dead end or a path that leads to a happier and longer future, particularly when it comes to your loved ones.